1.Kiss your husband everyday, when you or he:
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- comes home in the evening
- wakesup in the morning
- leaves home in the morning
If you are away from home, do this via phone every day.
2.Give atleast a call in a day check how is he doing?
Do take or return his calls on your mobile, with priority!
3.Do you know what makes your husband happy?
Regularly, say every new year or on your wedding anniversary, ask yourself and review the top 5 things which makes your husband happy! Will help you act smart, if you know his key to happiness.
4.Be your husband's best 'friend' and 'partner'
Keep him finding love & comfort in you be careful in your words, actions! He will achieve great heights, with your loving support!
5.Know his appetite, food he like, cooking style and presentation of food.
Best way to a mans heart is through his stomach! This is a key secret, beware and invest your time! Occasionally, plan and cook some of your special dishes for your family, close friends.This will make you and your husband proud.
Note: If you need to get a training on cooking from experienced hands, go get it - it will be a worth investment for your family! Just keep your regular cooking healthy, while allowing special dishes as a treat!
6.Know the power of your bed time stories on your husband.
Don't nag, be it for drinking or smoking or whatever, as he will prefer to stay away from home.
Smart women do utilise the good mood and moments to control their family's destiny! Use this time effectively to brainwash your husband - it really works!
7.Keep him happy in bed and be thoughtful and genuine in doing this!
No man will go out like Tiger woods then! -you dont need to have a size zero body for that!!!
Make a point in your mind to keep the romance alive, irrespective of age!
Insist on having atleast 2 days in a year, with just you and your husband, away from home, work and worries.Trust me, this will work wonders in rejuvenating your love life and make it memorable!
8.A clever and smart modern wife can still take cues on how to excite and control your husband here. It was written at a time in India, when the main purpose of wife was to serve her husband, the duty or dharma of a wife was defined as:
- Karyeshu mantri (an advisor like a minister, in work)
- Karaneshu dasi (a servant, in service)
- Dharmeshu patni (a companion, in noble deeds)
- Kshamaya dhaitri (compared to 'mother earth', in tolerance and forgiveness)
- Bhojeshu mata (like a mother, when feeding food)
- Shayaneshu veshya (like a prostitute, in bed)
- Range sakhi (like a friend, in enjoyment)
Do remember and follow this, as he will always want you nearby!
9.Be the trusted Public Relations Officer(PRO) for your husband
Be your husband's PRO in your own family and close circles.Never overdo this though! Support him, come what may!
10.Keep your home and house, tidy and presentable
Make your husband proud of coming home! Remember, if the house is unclean, invariably the houswife is blamed by visitors! Establish a practise and ensure your husband & family to follow!
11.Love him unconditionally and let him know that, come what may!
will surely benefit you and your children in the long run childrens personality will be affected, if their fathers image is tarnished in their eyes. Children will be the most affected incase of a divorce divorce is one of the worst traumatic experience you will ever through, if it happens!
12.Cleverly challenge, enable, praise and support your husband to achieve his potential
He will remember this you will benefit even if you could do things, delegate and get key things done through your husband and appreciate him for that! praise him and make him feel look forward to come home! Be there for each other, no matter what.
13.Never wash your dirty linen in public
For small issues - not even discuss with your close friends or family. It may comeback to haunt you.(Big issues - hmm, discuss if required only, with 1 or max 2, trusted, experienced and mature friend/family member, with an explicit confidentiality clause!)
14.Dont be a disciplinarian with your husband
Dont expect your husband to help with childrens schoolwork, if you always find faults and at the end insist it to get it exactly the way you expect! Be flexible with your husband's style of life and make changes patiently!
15.Give respect and take respect
Never put your husband down in front of your children and public! You might be making a unrecoverable itch! Always put your partner first - in front of your family, friends or co-workers. Show love and respect every day.
16.Don't argue or fight, when both of you are tired from work or under pressure.
17.Show respect and treat husband's family as your own.
Having a good and trustworthy relationship with your husbands family members, close circle will always stand you in good stead.
18. Keep a good sense of humor and never go to bed with an open issue.
Grow together. Don't get into bed with an argument unresolved - infuse humour into it and lighten the situation. Love needs to be nurtured, don't forget that!
19.Allow a personal space and time for each other
Be it a gymnasium visit or cycling trips or club visits - let him enjoy fully in that time to comeback and spend good and relaxed time with you!
20.Encourage good behaviour, to get what you want repeatedly!
Grow together. Don't get into bed with an argument unresolved - infuse humour into it and lighten the situation. Love needs to be nurtured, don't forget that!
19.Allow a personal space and time for each other
Be it a gymnasium visit or cycling trips or club visits - let him enjoy fully in that time to comeback and spend good and relaxed time with you!
20.Encourage good behaviour, to get what you want repeatedly!
Best Wishes!
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Also, try giving him a shoulder massage when he comes home from work.
ReplyDeleteHere are some additional points to ponder:
ReplyDelete*)If you don't like how you partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner and correct your behavior.
*)Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. Work to be pleasant toward your husband.
*)Find time to sit and talk with your husband on a daily basis even if it is for only half an hour. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with your husband anything then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when your husband is talking. You may have a dozen important things to tell him but allow him to talk first. Don't greet him with complaints and problems the moment he comes back from work. Good Communication also helps to build trust and strengthen your relationship. After marriage the wife and husband are a team or partners. Do not take any major decisions about the family without consulting with husband. Fights or problems may happen in between the two but do not let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves.
*) Be Supportive: A husband expects wife’s support and understanding especially in times of troubles.
*) Do not nag: No man would like a nagging wife.
*) Give him his space
*) Keep him happy in Bed: Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any marriage. Please your man in bed. If you cannot keep your man happy in Bed he would go where he can get it. After all, a Man is a man!
*)Treat your Husband with Respect
*) Plan Surprises: Men like surprises too.
*) Express your love and appreciation often: Men likes praises and appreciation. Make the best of your time together. Men like to hear the words ‘I love you’ too. Also join him in activities that he's interested in even though you would have preferred to do something else or give him a thoughtful gift once in a while. Make it a point never to forget the special days in his life. Pamper him very often, especially when he is at home. You can even cook for him or give him a good massage. Making him dependent on you by doing his chores when he is at home is not a bad idea.
*) Prepare yourself by take special care about your appearance and everyday.